June 1st Session

I was out of town last week and missed the Geneen Roth session. I am just getting to the class now. Here are the learning and interesting comments for the evening:

Identifications from the previous week:

1. we hardly eat when we are hungry.
2. we eat on a schedule.
3. we don't need nearly as much food as you need.
4. nothing is a rule.
5. if you eat when you are not hungry, there is no gauge to tell you to stop.
6. if you eat when you are not hungry, you will not know what you are hungry for.
7. when you stop using food to push down your feelings you have to deal with them.
8. when you stop eating when you are not hungry, you will start feeling new things and wonder what to do with your time.
9. commit to yourself
10. what is the most important thing to you - re-decide on a daily basis
11. eat what your body wants
12. mouth hunger - looking, smelling food
13. body hunger - what your body needs for nourishment, energy, vitality
14. mind hunger - choosing what used to be forbidden
15. beliefs drive actions and they should be questioned
16. taking time with yourself is not self indulgent of selfish

"Beyond What's Broken: Becoming Whole Again"

1. Every single one of us start our lives with a sense of being fine without self reflection.
2. As we get older we begin to learn what approval and disapproval is.
3. Construct our self images based on what we learn as lovable and what is not lovable - what was paid attention to.
4. Change is impossible until we understand our inner critic and the voice that says you CAN'T DO THIS!
5. Current status quo is having a dysfunctional relationship with food. Changing this upsets the voice and it comes in to stun you to stop transformation.
6. The voice's function is supposed to stop us from doing what to do and what not to do in society. It starts as our parents and becomes internalized as we get older.
7. The voice takes objective truth and blends it with moral judgement. (i gained 20 lbs this year blends with I am a loser and have no will power).
8. You know you are under the influence of the voice when you feel paralyzed, needy, weak, shamed or desperate.
9. Name your voice. It is possible to separate ourselves from the voice.
10. Disengage from your voice. Defend against your voice and tell it to get lost.
11. Practice. Practice. Practice.